Once upon a time there was this girl…
Yeah, that’s how most fairytales begin, but not this fairytale. As we all remember from our childhoods, which is not too long ago from some of us, we remember a princess struggling, waiting for her prince charming, wishing for a better life she is longing to live, but doesn’t know how to. Have you ever noticed that in reality we are also searching for the same things? Yeah, I know we don’t live in medieval times, with dragon guarded castles, and I am pretty most girls don’t have hair long enough to climb, because then she might have some serious problems in the real world, but most people In the world are searching in hopes to find that lover and true happiness. Mistakenly, people confuse love and happiness to be the same thing. One does not have to find love to achieve happiness. You don’t need love to be happy, but honestly it could help. Now, I don’t want to be a hypocrite about the whole love versus happiness debate. I too believe finding love could result in a GREATER happiness. But I have learned without love you can indeed be happy, and many men and woman have accomplished success without a partner by their side. Proving you can succeed on your own.
Now like I mentioned I am not a hypocrite, at 20 years old I believe love is a big part of life, and I know for a fact that I am not the only one who believes that. I can speak for myself and possibly half of the world female population, but I don’t think I can truly speak for the male population being I am not one. But for the woman and girls all over the world, we grew up looking at those princesses, who had evil stepmothers and sisters, or were locked away in towers, not living the way they dreamed, but in an hour they manage to escape their old life and live “happily ever after” with the prince who rescues them. The young girls observe in amazement at the life they long to live as they viewed on the television screen, but in reality no one lives like that even celebrities. Girls, love just doesn’t happen because you are waiting for your “prince” to rescue you, and it most definitely doesn’t happen in an hour or less, love takes time, and when you find it, you will know.
I am in no way a guy, I can prove that, I don’t know the inner emotions of a guy, if I did, I wouldn’t be so worried about what a guy is thinking and wonder why they do what they do, also I don’t have the “equipment” a guy possesses. This inadvertently, is a reason why guys do what they do. They think with 3 different things. Their hearts, their minds, and their manly appendage, and for those who don’t understand what that may be, it’s their d*ck. Anyway, as mentioned, I cannot speak for a guy, but there are guys out there who actually want to be that prince charming. They hope for a chance to fight for the girl they love. Any girl with a guy like this is quite a lucky girl. You might even feel like a princess. In the guys defense, did they really have a princely figure to look up to just as the girls did with the princesses? I don’t think so. Most of those fairy tales were about the girls, and their struggles. Boys are rarely represented in fairytales unless they are the ones who save the day, so all guys thought was they were always supposed to be the hero, the Alpha male I guess we could say. From then on, guys believe they are the most powerful, and they will always get the girl….No matter what.
So, here’s the thing guys, if you really believe you can be a prince, you have to show it. You can get the girl by sweeping her off her feet, but it takes more than that to keep her. What truly happens after “happily ever after?” We are never really shown. All you ever see is the prince rescuing the princess; they get married and take off in a carriage to their new happy life. But are they truly happy? In a way, we are the answer to that question. Unfortunately, we live in a world where happy endings are not always fulfilled. We live in a world of divorce, adultery, and death. That kind of stuff does not happen to the lovers in a fairytale. As much as fairytales give us a positive outlook on life, it is not the correct outlook. We seem to be taught that as soon as one is married, their life is going to be perfect. Well let me tell you. Love is not perfect, neither if life. We all have problems, but no one does in a fairy tale world, thus giving us the wrong impression of what life is all about. We are all given the impression we will all be happy, which I believe most of the world’s population can say it is nowhere near true.
So here we are back to reality. We don’t live in a fairytale world; therefore our lives will not be like they are in the fairytales. We are going to have to suffer pain more than once in our lives. We live and we learn, those lessons are what we pass down from generation to generation.
Okay, I know what you’re thinking. I am only 19 years old, so what do I know about love and marriage and living happily ever after? Well honestly, I don’t. I have never been married, but I have been in love, at least I thought it was love. And it wasn’t the kind of puppy love that most adults think teenagers have with their partners, it was a legit love, and I was given the wrong impression that we could end up living happily ever after, but as proven by many before me, plans change, people change, and the future is altered. It happens all the time, sometimes you can control the future, and sometimes you can’t, it’s all matters with what you do with the cards that are handed to you. Just like in a true game of cards, 50% of the time you will be dealt a bad hand, and if you play your cards right, you can turn something as bad as a pair of two’s to a royal flush.
I guess a lot that I have said it kind of negative, but it is the truth. You can’t have something positive, and lie, that gives people the wrong idea. Fortunately, there are things in life that we do sometimes see in the movies or the fairytales. Friendship; in everyone of those fairytales, those “princesses” had some sort of friend whether it be a human or an animal, the one in trouble was never alone. I believe something to learn from these misleading stories is there is always a friend nearby to help you through the problems no matter how hard times may be.
Well at the age of 19, I am still kind of a child when it comes to some things, but in other ways, I am an adult, I have learned a lot from those who came before me, those who came after me, events in my own life, and yes even those unrealistic fairytales. In life you learn something new every day. Well I am young, and have a long life to live. So lets let the learning begin. And who knows, maybe one day we can teach those princes and princesses a thing or two about reality.
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